tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post4302415331878862862..comments2023-06-05T09:22:52.912+01:00Comments on Please Don't Eat With Your Mouth Open: One YearPlease Don't Eat With Your Mouth Openhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09246896544080806179noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-50549741295331952962009-10-21T09:47:49.714+01:002009-10-21T09:47:49.714+01:00Spot on. That's the thing, as soon as I stoppe...Spot on. That's the thing, as soon as I stopped contacting him, even in minor little ways, everything kind of sorted itself out on its own. I got so bored with walking home from the station in the evenings after having a perfectly good night out with friends and a few drinks, suddenly getting all teary because a certain song came on my iPod. Half the time I'd be unhappy about something completely unrelated to him, yet I'd still end up blaming the breakup in my head.<br /><br />I got bored with talking about him when everything I knew was based on maybe 2 emails and a text message, or one meet up in 3 months and a lot of speculation. You get to the point where you want something real to talk about again.<br /><br />It took a year but I'm over it.Please Don't Eat With Your Mouth Openhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09246896544080806179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-57761100007154627662009-10-21T00:03:05.058+01:002009-10-21T00:03:05.058+01:00Bloody hell.
This is why I come here.
Something ...Bloody hell.<br /><br />This is why I come here.<br /><br />Something PJB commented a couple of years ago that keeps haunting me - it gets me when I'm driving somewhere or I'm in a post office queue or out running. <br /><br />'Some people you never get over'.<br /><br />It doesn't mean the person concerned isn't happy, it just means someone left their mark, maybe hurt you so badly that you will never forget.<br /><br />It's funny, I kept the contact up thinking it would be ok, until I realised people probably wouldn't be interested in my heart ache anymore. You start to bore yourself let alone other people. That's when I realised I had to stop the contact. <br /><br />No contact no context. Seems harsh but it's the only way with some exes.Time Travellerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04764344601716519201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-67081987073657859642009-10-14T17:00:23.009+01:002009-10-14T17:00:23.009+01:00Nutty - Oh only because you hadn't posted in a...Nutty - Oh only because you hadn't posted in a bit. I chop and change the link list every other week or so to try to keep it fresh with blogs that are regularly updated, . No point directing people to a blog where there's nothing being posted. You're not annoying, I just want you to not-annoy me more often!<br />call it an incentive :)Please Don't Eat With Your Mouth Openhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09246896544080806179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-84866298354721609892009-10-14T14:36:32.521+01:002009-10-14T14:36:32.521+01:00Huzzah - you're so right. I thought I had done...Huzzah - you're so right. I thought I had done with the crying but then I realise that my behaviour *after* the crying was the most destructive. And now I'm ok again. As are you. God, we're awesome!<br /><br />PS. How come I'm not in your "not annoying" list? Does this mean I *am* annoying?nuttycowhttp://parlezvousmoo.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-37175164005689650802009-10-10T22:00:17.496+01:002009-10-10T22:00:17.496+01:00To your writing.To your writing.Lapahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08340171922080377774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-60721990332632693702009-10-10T15:51:01.272+01:002009-10-10T15:51:01.272+01:00PJB - Nah, I know what you mean. I'm under no ...PJB - Nah, I know what you mean. I'm under no illusion that what I say now and do later will be two entirely different things. But it's nice to realise you can do better, and maybe be a bit stronger next time. As for sticking around and making it work, that's the one thing he didn't want to do. I think we could have made it work, too.<br /><br />James - Contact is just the most destructive thing. I thought I could deal with the monthly 'hello' emails, but recently hearing absolutely nothing has been the turning point. <br /><br />Unbearable - Thanks, strangely I feel very grown up at the moment...like I'm definitely a different person to who I was last year. <br /><br />Blue - You're right, it is the cycle. Although death is more final, you have the hollow in your stomach for longer I think. I hope you're doing alright. <br /><br />Lapa - I don't know what you're referring to.<br /><br />Helen - Indeed, I cringe looking back now. I wish I'd just had some balls and had cut myself free earlier. Although it could have been a lot worse. I thought the world would end, but I'm actually happier now.Please Don't Eat With Your Mouth Openhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09246896544080806179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-50145787256876484072009-10-09T13:05:36.869+01:002009-10-09T13:05:36.869+01:00Blimey. This was like reading the story of my own ...Blimey. This was like reading the story of my own relationship breakdown. Even right down to the last ditch attempts like gift buying.<br /><br />I cringe when I think about what I put up with. <br /><br />But you do it don't you, when you're so in love with someone? When you think you can't live without them.<br /><br />xHelenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15187405625806124612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-66681766933776339492009-10-09T11:45:56.075+01:002009-10-09T11:45:56.075+01:00You are an artist!You are an artist!Lapahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08340171922080377774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-68553494273103838882009-10-09T11:36:02.756+01:002009-10-09T11:36:02.756+01:00And that's the grief cycle... People go throug...And that's the grief cycle... People go through it for any loss, not just death (which is obviously where I am looking at it from at the moment). Welcome to acceptance.Souphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12289911480898794581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-24247530857457101032009-10-09T01:36:04.196+01:002009-10-09T01:36:04.196+01:00I think I may have mentioned this before but you a...I think I may have mentioned this before but you are a remarkably evolved individual. Some folks never gain the insights you lay out here. Good on you.The Unbearable Banishmenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05704208968630911021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-8901727689682410042009-10-08T17:28:46.083+01:002009-10-08T17:28:46.083+01:00What you say makes a lot of sense. When I went thr...What you say makes a lot of sense. When I went through something similar I knew it was best to cut off contact completely. <br /><br />Not to stop thinking about it---understanding and processing my feelings was crucial. But it just didn't make any sense to be in contact with the other person.Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17252335036553031411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-89084899265185800372009-10-08T17:25:45.124+01:002009-10-08T17:25:45.124+01:00Sorry, didn't mean that to sound all um whatev...Sorry, didn't mean that to sound all um whatever the word is.<br />All I mean is that you tell yourself you'd never do it again...but when you love someone, you'll stick around and try and make it work, no matter what you told yourself before.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-57002997077092728642009-10-08T17:07:32.913+01:002009-10-08T17:07:32.913+01:00You always think that if it happened again...if so...You always think that if it happened again...if someone wasn't sure, you'd walk away straight away...but things don't work like that. Just because it's happened before,and you've made all these resolutions about not doing it again.. doesn't mean it makes it easy to walk away the second time. Love doesn't work like that. Believe me, I know.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com