tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post3096391615772071932..comments2023-06-05T09:22:52.912+01:00Comments on Please Don't Eat With Your Mouth Open: TalkPlease Don't Eat With Your Mouth Openhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09246896544080806179noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-46880754939716073842011-03-07T19:17:54.533+00:002011-03-07T19:17:54.533+00:00OMFG .. this post says exactly what I've not b...OMFG .. this post says exactly what I've not been able to say on mine .. it mirrors it almost exactly. Every day will and is a battle .. but a battle that will be won!<br /><br />{{hugs}} xcataclismicalnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-12738729331693961512011-02-03T20:49:06.755+00:002011-02-03T20:49:06.755+00:00It's a thing, isn't it? It's instinct ...It's a thing, isn't it? It's instinct and survival and you have to decide what is best for you and your survival and then you have to deal with the consequences of that decision, and no-one *no-one* but you can tell you what's best because it's all down to that instinct thing again.<br /><br />You have to do what is right for you. And you should trust your instinct because it's part of your survival mechanism.<br /><br />I made different choices, but my survival instinct told me I couldn't cope without her.<br /><br />I'm sure what you've done is right for you and you should be supported by that. It can't have been easy though. I have admiration for anyone who makes the same decision, no matter what the outcome of that decision is. It's tough, sometimes, making choices.<br /><br /><br />xxBrennighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10553332352189636358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-55324441659444934622011-02-03T20:02:31.063+00:002011-02-03T20:02:31.063+00:00I've only been reading your blog for a couple ...I've only been reading your blog for a couple of weeks, and I've never commented before but I just wanted to tell you I think you're being really brave and to hang in there! (with copious amounts of ice cream if needed!) Even though I don't really know you and you don't know me at all I just wanted to let you know I was thinking about you and I hope the hurt eases for you as quickly as possible. Many internet hugs xxEvahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16635825690128192495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-82364200426763981312011-02-03T15:03:50.644+00:002011-02-03T15:03:50.644+00:00Total shitty sinking feeling reading all this. I a...Total shitty sinking feeling reading all this. I also feel like a total shitty voyeur for checking so regularly to see what news, what progress but don't stop. Writing, brave, yes. Braver, more impressive - your decision to be done: <i>I couldn't take the risk that two months down the line, he'd make a definitive decision that it was "us" that was the problem, thus causing me to crash, hurt and shudder to a halt like this all over again. </i><br /><br />All the usual hang in there noises. You've got this I-know-what's-good-for-me survivor thing going. Awkward pat pat hug from far far away.Nimpipihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15971502879277219728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-90151256135201370112011-02-03T13:35:01.041+00:002011-02-03T13:35:01.041+00:00Ouch...
But on the plus side, good riddance to ba...Ouch...<br /><br />But on the plus side, good riddance to bad rubbish….<br /><br />You deserve better than this and are taking the right steps, even if it hurts like hell now….BlackLOGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13214821496023051754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-40014831364180099432011-02-03T12:14:28.745+00:002011-02-03T12:14:28.745+00:00I concur with the above. You are incredibly brave....I concur with the above. You are incredibly brave. I wasn't brave enough to walk away from my last relationship when the trust got broken. I endured paranoia, mistrust and so much heartache for the 18 months following the 'incident'. I wish I'd been as strong as you and just gone with my instinct xHelenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15187405625806124612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-48257013133335220062011-02-03T11:24:09.962+00:002011-02-03T11:24:09.962+00:00jo, i'm so very sorry that its over and for th...jo, i'm so very sorry that its over and for the pain you're going through. You're brave for not going with the easier option but like so many have commented before me, you'll get through this with time, perspective, good friends and knowing that you deserved a hell lot more than he could give.<br /><br />You're allowed to be sad but as someone who has been through her fair share of heartaches, you'll begin to feel that ache less and less.<br /><br />mind your wee soul pet xleddyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17509136481317788465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-50266906959422521422011-02-03T10:30:52.895+00:002011-02-03T10:30:52.895+00:00Robbie - Thanks, my friends are keeping me going.
...Robbie - Thanks, my friends are keeping me going.<br /><br />modelofa - Thanks as well, it will be very shitty and this is just the start, but hopefully the worst is over (wishful thinking)<br /><br />jman - The irony of that hasn't escaped me, it was the thing that we kept going back to the other night. He wanted to work things through based on the amazing times we've had, but for me that wasn't enough. Freud would definitely have his work cut out with this one.<br /><br />Unbearable - It's a killer. Writing helps to put things into perspective though. <br /><br />Huw - I'm clinging onto that comment. I hope so. It feels brave and stupid and horrible. But hopefully the right thing to do.<br /><br />soup - Believe me, there was nothing I wanted more than to give us another chance. It killed me to know and say I couldn't. <br /><br />Charlotte - Thanks x<br /><br />Londonlass - Good mates are essential.<br /><br />Benders Better - That's it, I didn't want to be a horrible paranoid girlfriend. And the PiB, she is a star. <br /><br />Redbookish - It doesn't feel very brave, it feels shit, but maybe I'll see it like that later.<br /><br />Perp - Day by day it will get easier, that's the way it goes.Please Don't Eat With Your Mouth Openhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09246896544080806179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-52293369102325944022011-02-03T08:10:40.765+00:002011-02-03T08:10:40.765+00:00Thank goodness for good friends checking you are o...Thank goodness for good friends checking you are okay.<br /><br />I've no doubt that was a very difficult decision to make, and whilst there will be terribly upsetting days to come in the future, each day will be less and less painful.<br /><br />xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-52898727399086513472011-02-02T23:38:39.716+00:002011-02-02T23:38:39.716+00:00You are very brave, really. Gosh, I'm admiring...You are very brave, really. Gosh, I'm admiring your strength. Pity it comes with such sadness. Good luck & best wishes (oh, anything I write seems fatuous).Redbookishnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-22737258863915298862011-02-02T22:03:40.219+00:002011-02-02T22:03:40.219+00:00Seems like the right decision. The trust has been ...Seems like the right decision. The trust has been broken and you'd always be looking out for the next lie or story that didn't add up. That'd be a right head-fuck.<br /><br />Twenty six, single, living in one of the most interesting cities on the planet. Plenty of good days ahead Jo.<br /><br />And PiB's a star.Bender's Better Brotherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14492248278179514030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-34050388528554892592011-02-02T21:55:52.163+00:002011-02-02T21:55:52.163+00:00So sorry Jo. Keep eating. And thank goodness for...So sorry Jo. Keep eating. And thank goodness for good mates :)London Lass Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05585548733858304214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-42387378966472947022011-02-02T20:20:03.181+00:002011-02-02T20:20:03.181+00:00I'm sorry.. I know all too well the feelings y...I'm sorry.. I know all too well the feelings you are going through.<br /><br />You are allowed to be sad.. <br />xxCharlottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11963415107088171985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-12846433578764304602011-02-02T19:32:12.827+00:002011-02-02T19:32:12.827+00:00I agree with everyone else, but particularly with ...I agree with everyone else, but particularly with Huw. This is a very brave thing to have done - It must have taken a lot of strength to think rationally. <br /><br />And Huw is right, in time you'll look back on it and be relieved.<br /><br />Between now and then, we will listen xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-60179163446691595612011-02-02T19:13:23.225+00:002011-02-02T19:13:23.225+00:00Brave.
Some months on, you will look back and sa...Brave. <br /><br />Some months on, you will look back and say "phew".<br /><br />xHuwhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17812961156865975046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-83214559923881136142011-02-02T18:59:22.840+00:002011-02-02T18:59:22.840+00:00These posts are killer to read. Worse to live thro...These posts are killer to read. Worse to live through, I'm sure, but I feel for you, Jo. It might be a while until you feel normal again. Keep writing.The Unbearable Banishmenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05704208968630911021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-55983855100961815632011-02-02T18:24:57.380+00:002011-02-02T18:24:57.380+00:00The sun is still going to come up tomorrow (well b...The sun is still going to come up tomorrow (well being London, perhaps this is less reassuring than might otherwise be the case), there are still lots of good things in your life even if there is a hole in it at present. WHat seems ironic is that all the time you were traveling, he was always true. And now as you are moving in together, he does this? WWFS (what would freud say?) But as a character in a movie (oops film!) once said, "The First Fidelity Trust Bank is an unforgiving lender. When you overdraw your account, it shuts the door behind you." Keep trying to maintain perspective and when that fails tea and biscuits might do it. Sending lots of positive waves.jmannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-87841019406232370802011-02-02T18:23:05.785+00:002011-02-02T18:23:05.785+00:00Well done.
You'll get through this, and I'...Well done.<br /><br />You'll get through this, and I've no doubt it'll be shitty along the way, but you've got people who'll provide hugs and cups of tea.<br /><br />You know where we all are.<br /><br />Mmodelofamodernmajorgeneralnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-34102700291558902292011-02-02T17:14:37.939+00:002011-02-02T17:14:37.939+00:00I'm so sorry Jo.
I hope you'll be alright...I'm so sorry Jo.<br /><br />I hope you'll be alright. Good to see you have friends checking in on you.Robbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07746692668880855217noreply@blogger.com