tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post1005067633878451021..comments2023-06-05T09:22:52.912+01:00Comments on Please Don't Eat With Your Mouth Open: This post is bloody depressing. I'd advise you not to read it.Please Don't Eat With Your Mouth Openhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09246896544080806179noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-8716554016137145732011-05-22T20:38:16.188+01:002011-05-22T20:38:16.188+01:00Ruby Tuesday - All hail the upward curve. Strange ...Ruby Tuesday - All hail the upward curve. Strange thing is I'm busy socially, so not particularly lonely, just occasionally have these bouts of...well...missing him, I suppose. As much as I really, really don't want to. Because he is a bastard.<br /><br />Sarah - True. You'll always come out stronger on the otherside. It's just painful in the meantime.<br /><br />Jilly - I've always found that no contact is an amazing way to get through a break up, but I suppose I've always been used to some degree of contact, or knowledge, or something. I'm finding a blanket "nothing at all" quite strange, although I know it's for the best.<br /><br />Leigh - I had a similar thing with my Uni Ex. We didn't see each other for months after we broke up, but gradually resumed contact and sporadic meetings with mutual friends. Every time I saw him I crashed all over again, but in a way it spured me to move on. In the end, we both found new boyf / girlf's at a similar time, so it didn't leave me reeling as I'd moved on.<br /><br />PJB - I hope so :(<br /><br />Miss Milk - In the meantime, it just feels a bit alien. All that time with someone for it to lead to nothing. Weird.<br /><br />London lass - Or hopefully they'll cease to matter. Either would be good.<br /><br />Ella - I have a rule about not speaking to exes. I always told my ex that "if" we broke up, that would be it. No going back. I don't think he ever took me too seriously until it happened.Please Don't Eat With Your Mouth Openhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09246896544080806179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-9691562411667123532011-05-21T12:40:51.845+01:002011-05-21T12:40:51.845+01:00I'm sorry that you're so sad - but I compl...I'm sorry that you're so sad - but I completely understand what it's like when you cut someone out of your life so suddenly. You're right. It really is a crappy long-term strategy because I think everyone needs to gradually accept the change. To suddenly remove someone from your life causes more harm than good. My ex doesn't want to talk to me because he has this rule about not talking to exes, despite the fact that we could have been really good friends and we didn't end it on bad terms. It's annoying and hurtful - but with time, it will get better :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09986749517508432852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-28204166861188478572011-05-20T14:03:55.721+01:002011-05-20T14:03:55.721+01:00Sounds horrid - having no closure is the worst of ...Sounds horrid - having no closure is the worst of the worst, but eventually those questions will stop whirling around.London Lass Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05585548733858304214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-35797637392345933352011-05-20T01:13:39.233+01:002011-05-20T01:13:39.233+01:00I disagree. Long term, this will look like the bes...I disagree. Long term, this will look like the best decision you ever made.Sprinkled Words (former Miss Milk)https://www.blogger.com/profile/10490666010640657826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-85216908497120110982011-05-19T22:21:41.141+01:002011-05-19T22:21:41.141+01:00It will right itself....you'll pop right out t...It will right itself....you'll pop right out the other side soon xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-63213851785211649482011-05-19T22:07:18.062+01:002011-05-19T22:07:18.062+01:00I did both in my break-up, we kept up contact for ...I did both in my break-up, we kept up contact for about a month and half because he was doing me some favours and I just wasn’t very good at not talking to him. The problem was that it didn’t feel like we’d even broke up, we still spoke every day and we were never a lovey dovey, soppy couple so nothing was any different in the way we spoke to each other. It all came to head when I freaked out at a wedding fayre I was exhibiting cakes at and called him to come and give me moral support. I had a major meltdown that night, totally falling apart as if we’d broken up all over again and I haven’t spoken to him since then (beginning of December) and he stopped trying at the end of January.<br /><br />I hear the odd snippet about how he’s doing jobwise (and even that messes with my head) but I haven’t got a clue how he’s doing personally and every time I go to the cinema or for a night out in his hometown I have a sick feeling worrying about seeing him with someone else. I just know it would tear me apart and I’d have to run away – probably literally knowing me.<br /><br />Every break-up is so different and we never know what’s going to help us cope with each one until we try it. With previous break-ups cutting all contact has always worked for me, it’s meant I’ve coped and I’ve moved on. This time it doesn’t feel like it’s working. Like you say, it all just feels a bit false.<br /><br />(Sorry for length of waffle)Leighhttp://scabbyknees.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-85530744241937907192011-05-19T17:21:32.817+01:002011-05-19T17:21:32.817+01:00I know how you feel. My ex lives abroad (he's ...I know how you feel. My ex lives abroad (he's from here, I used to live there, long story). We cut off Facebook and all that a while ago as he wasn't dealing with things (although he initiated the break up . . .) and I've only kept contact with mutual friends who are important to me. We don't talk, or text, or email and when we have to be in contact (owned a house together) it's all very distant. In all fairness you will find this distance is a good thing in time. It will help you move on and recover and find out what you really want and who you really are without the constant reminders of someone who is part of your past not your future (or even present). Good luck and chin up.Jillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11721546406505859580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-74683737306532553702011-05-19T16:30:52.483+01:002011-05-19T16:30:52.483+01:00It won't always swallow you whole. That's ...It won't always swallow you whole. That's both a good and a bad thing.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07071308334107855937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30034378.post-80300448818063654202011-05-19T15:08:28.902+01:002011-05-19T15:08:28.902+01:00I'm sorry you're feeling so down. It's...I'm sorry you're feeling so down. It's three months since my break up, and I'm finding the 'stages of grief' thing really comforting - it implies that we'll feel better one day! If it helps, it sounds like you might be at stage four - 'depression, reflection and loneliness' - which is followed by the very positive sounding 'upward curve'. So wait it out... things can only get better.Ruby Tuesdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11113886731956780720noreply@blogger.com